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post #1 of 110 (permalink) Old 05-01-2020, 16:58 Thread Starter
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I am going home.

and then maybe home and to my roots.

I have been getting uneasy here over the past week, wanting to go home to Brandenburg and start sorting things out.
Heike and I have had a long talk today and I have decided to go back next Sunday, she will do the same as when we came, take time off work and drive the Forester behind the Navajo. This time I will be fully covered with ADAC
It will be easier for me to see things clearly from my own house than here were I have spent 3 good months with them.
The weather is still OK, no snow in sight here or in Brandenburg so roads will be travel worthy.
I realise more and more every day now this is not where I want to spend the rest of my days, Iīm fine at the moment, but this is a mountainous area, (not many flat places to walk) I will be rather restricted when I am older.
Everything I need is at home as I have discovered to my inconvenience in the past 3 months.
I also feel more confident about being in the house alone although I know it will be hard at first, thats why Heike wants to come with me for the first week.
I can then plan a trip to England to visit family and friends and see how I feel about living there. The problem is of course finding somewhere to live, I want a place of my own not living with family.

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Good for you Jan. A month or two at home will help you decide.

I must say that I don't think, at the moment at least, that I ever want to live in the UK again.
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Sounds like a very sensible plan Jan. Take the drive slowly and carefully (as I am sure you would anyway) and then start to pick up the pieces again in Brandenburg.

Are there many people there that can help you sort out the undoubted numerous things that will now need to be done / changed / renewed etc ?

Yes there will be lots of memories, both good and bad, you will feel that he is on your shoulder - looking over as you tackle everything - in a way he will be and that is inevitable and not necessarily a bad thing.

As regards returning to the UK - a "short" visit will not show you the advantages and disadvantages of such a move but may rekindle wishes that you hold even if subconsciously. Moving in with family is a big step and one that none of us are keen to do for any length of time, but it could allow you to use the MH for trips while giving the security of support if you need it for anything.

Lots of choices ahead, but they will and should be, YOUR choices. Good luck.

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Good for you Jan. A month or two at home will help you decide.

I must say that I don't think, at the moment at least, that I ever want to live in the UK again.
I didn't think so either Alan, but who knows how much longer I will live, I need to be in a place where I understand people and they understand me. It will be very painful leaving the house we had built just for us, but now it's no longer us.
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I emailed Telecom at 16.22 this afternoon asking them to reconnect and if I could retain my old number.

At 17.41 the answered telling me it will be reconnected on the date I asked and I have my old number.

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Take it slowly Jan

Maybe home is here in Britain

Maybe not

When I came home from Israel

I really missed it, but I could now understand the language freely

I was so depressed

And Albert said, letís do the Shabbat meal , which I reluctantly agreed to

A familiar meal to our family in Israel

And our youngest, aged 4 said as we lit the candles and broke the bread

Imma v Abba anaknou v beit akshav ?

Mum and Dad have we come home ?

And I stared at him, yes I said we have come home

And I needed to build a home for these kids

A home where they felt safe and secure

And thatís exactly what we did

But to this day, I miss Israel

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Take it slowly Jan

Maybe home is here in Britain

Maybe not

When I came home from Israel

I really missed it, but I could now understand the language freely

I was so depressed

And Albert said, letís do the Shabbat meal , which I reluctantly agreed to

A familiar meal to our family in Israel

And our youngest, aged 4 said as we lit the candles and broke the bread

Imma v Abba anaknou v beit akshav ?

Mum and Dad have we come home ?

And I stared at him, yes I said we have come home

And I needed to build a home for these kids

A home where they felt safe and secure

And thatís exactly what we did

But to this day, I miss Israel

Sandra
Well if you want to start crowdfunding, I'll donate a tenner to send you back there.

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You are probably doing the right thing as you need space for thinking time at leisure.

We are all different and have different needs. Some of us are indepentaly self sufficient (me) and some need the comfort of a close family (Mrs HS).

I decided that at our age it's financially astute to plan for an unknown future as we become ever older (hopefully) and potentially less mobile, so we chose to live in a pleasant market town with a wide range of level access shops in a beautiful area, and with good public transport. Right now, for the foreseeable future, I think, all the bases are covered.

You need time alone to quietly reflect on what is right for you, both for today, and for your future.
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Well if you want to start crowdfunding, I'll donate a tenner to send you back there.
What, a whole £10 ?
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A friend in the village did a similar think Jan. The house she and her husband had shared was too painful for her to stay in so she sold and moved to a neighbouring village and a little closer to her daughter. It has helped her in her journey to a different life without him.
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