having gone through the loss of Viv (which is now over 7 years), I tried going back on my own to places we'd been to, but it just wasn't the same, and I shouldn't have done. When I was with Sue we went to lots of new places, which was good, but she wasn't the right person to do it with!! So doing it solo again, I've had a couple of short trips out in the last couple of weeks, and aim to get to France and just wander when we're allowed to. I'm adjusted to being solo now, at least motorhome-wise. I find that people on sites talk to people on their own more than couples, or maybe it's because I'm more chatty now out & about! I have a lovely lady friend locally who wants no complications, and quite frankly neither do I after the experience with Sue! You've just got to let it happen....
Thanks for your thoughts Mike.
For me it will be no different than being at home, without him being physically here, I still talk to him, I still feel him here.
I spoke with an old lady in the village today and itīs obviously got around that I donīt even know where in the cemetary the urn with his ashes in is buried and I said to her, " he is not there heīs at home with me" he had only been to that graveyard twice to funerals and when we discussed the time when one of us was no longer here it was made clear to him and to me no funeral, not to do what other people do, visiting graves, unfortunately it is not allowed to have ashes scattered in this country otherwise they would have been fertiliser for the field behind me.
Our/My way of course is not everyones choice , the day of the cremation I had people around me that cared, not the whole village who didnīt know him, but itīs the done thing to go to village funerals.
When I was with Heike for 3 months after he died I was in many places where we had been on holiday, last year I stayed in a place where we had been together. Wherever I go with the Navajo he will still be there, every alteration he has made reminds me of the time he made it. I keep telling him if it wasn't for the bloody virus I might have made a new friend and the perhaps he wouldn't be in my way all the time
You can bet wherever I go in this country we will have either stayed or passed through, we travelled to many places here between 1980 and 2005, at least 6 weeks a year 3 in spring and 3 in autumn, since being here Poland and Czechia were our main destinations.
So next year if allowed I will be taking him to France where he never had the urge to go and if I enjoy it as much as everyone else on this forum does I wonīt `alf be telling him off.